Two things are certain about conflict, it’s uncomfortable and inevitable. More often than not, a conflict arises because of the lack of communication. I've been here. 

There's a Spanish saying, "El bebé que no llora no come."

A dear friend (@acevvvedo) explained it like this, 

"When a baby is hungry, it cries. If the baby doesn’t cry, how will the parents know to feed it?” 

From the moment a baby comes out of the womb, it communicates. You hear a loud cry, and you know everything is alright. If you don't hear the baby cry, everyone in the room becomes concerned.

As we continue to grow this form of communication stays with us until we can form proper words. If we need a diaper change or food, we cry. It's instinctual.

What happens next? Our parent tends to those needs.

When Angel explained this to me, I was enlightened. As an adults, we should do the same!

It's critical, for any relationship to remain healthy that we communicate our needs, wants, concerns, feelings, and boundaries. 

However, for one reason or another, we do the opposite. We shut down. I shut down and it's months, maybe years later and we're pissed about something a person said or did, and guess what? They have NO IDEA those words or actions were an issue for you.

So how do we avoid this method of communicating?

We choose to be intentional in feeling all the feelings, processing the emotions and experience and simply communicate. Easier said than done, right?

I leave you with this, choose to communicate when it's hard and uncomfortable because peace and resolve can be the result.

Love, Rita